"You can capture and hold anyone's attention without saying a word", says Leil Lowndes in her book How To Talk To Anyone. Time reported that body language is an important aspect of communication. Most of the time, it speaks louder than the words people say.
Below are some of the body language techniques that could attract attention:
The Flooding Smile
Lowndes suggested, "Don't flash an immediate smile when you greet someone." Doing so is sending a message that could sometimes be perceived as fake or not special. To make your smile look more sincere and personalized, try looking at the person's face and pausing for a second, following a huge, warm, reactive smile that floods over your face and shows light on your eyes. According to Lowndes, pausing before smiling can give added intensity and depth to how others see you.
Sticky Eyes
Focusing on the person you talk with and looking at their eyes when you speak shows interest and attention which adds to a person's confidence in speaking. Lowndes recommends, "Pretend your eyes are glued to your conversation partner's with sticky warm taffy. When you must look away, do it ever so slowly, reluctantly, stretching the gooey taffy until the tiny string finally breaks."
Epoxy Eyes
This is a great way to express your interest in a person. When conversing with a group of people, you should look at the person you are interested in from time to time, regardless of who is talking. However, using this technique could make the person of your interest uncomfortable. It can be avoided from happening by attentively observing the person talking, but glancing to the target person immediately after the speaker mentioned good points.
The Big-Baby Pivot
Lowndes stated, "Pivoting 100% toward the new person shouts, 'I think you are very, very special.'" People have an unexplainable desire to get the attention of the people they speak with. They are extremely aware of how you react on what they say. When meeting with a person for the first time, try turning your body fully toward them and provide the same attention one gives a baby.
Limit The Fidget
Moving too much on an important conversation can be distracting and makes a person less believable or interested. "Do not fidget, twitch, wiggle, squirm, or scratch," Lowndes says. Frequent hand movements near the face could be interpreted that the person speaking is lying or anxious. To avoid this, a person should give full attention on the person talking.
Hang By Your Teeth
This trick aids in showing confidence in someone's posture, which according to Lowndes is "your biggest success barometer." This could be done by imaging leather is hanging from the frame of every door you walk through. One should profess taking a bite on the dental grip, and let it sweep his cheeks into a smile. "When you hang by your teeth," Lowndes says, "every muscle is stretched into perfect posture position. Your head will be held high, shoulders back, torso out of your hips, and feet weightless."
Hello, Old Friend
When meeting a person for the first time, pretend that he is an old friend. Lowndes stated, "This will cause a lot of subconscious reactions in your body, from the softening of your eyebrows to the positioning of your toes."
Body language is the sign that tells another person what you're thinking. It plays an important role in business, and all relationships. So, make sure you follow the above techniques to attract more attention.
